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Aalborg
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Single women

We have been helping single women for many years. 

The liberal legislation in Denmark allows us to shape a process and treatment suited to your precise needs. We offer counselling for donor selection as well as all types of modern fertility treatments. Moreover, in Denmark, we are able to provide treatment to women until the age of 45. 

Our focus is on you, both psychologically and physically, in order to help assist you on your exciting journey towards creating a family.

When single women are approaching 40

A woman’s fertility declines rapidly from the age of 35. If you want children, it is important to consider what you will do if you don’t meet the right person in the near future.

That is why towards the end of their 30s, many single women decide to follow their dreams and become single parents if they are to become mothers to much longed-for children. If a partner shows up at a later time, then so be it.

Nina Stork – unexpected help for single women

Since 1999, we have been helping single women from the Nordic countries and Europe become single parents. VivaNeo’s StorkKlinik was originally opened by Midwife Nina Stork, because she wanted to make it possible for single and lesbian women to become mothers at a time when Danish law did not permit doctors inseminating women who were not married or living with a man. 

Therefore, Nina Stork decided to help single women to become parents. The special history behind the clinic means that since them, we have focused on helping single women to become parents. You will see lots of other single women who are in exactly the same situation and stage of their lives as you. 

A cosy, secure environment

When talking with women having fertility treatment, it is important for them that they are not made to feel like a patient. You are not sick; you just want to have a child on your own.

At our clinics we really try to create a nice, homely environment, where you feel welcome and in safe hands from the moment you step in the door. We try to ensure that you meet the people you’ve met before. In the clinic we have nice small lounges and cushions, stork teddies for children, books aimed at single parents and loads of photos of babies that came into being with our assistance. We also have a big map of the world with pins it showing the countries that women visiting the clinic have come from. There’s also a noticeboard for single women where you can meet other women. 

When you are having treatment in the clinic, you get a single room, where you can rest afterwards. All the rooms have a small lounge area. This means that you can bring a friend or a family member with you while you’re having treatment.

When choosing a donor

We have years of experience in advising and helping women with regard to choosing donor sperm. We have a close co-operation with the sperm banks, and most women who come to the clinic use donor sperm. As a prospective single parent, we can give you advice about the options available to you concerning the use of donor sperm. 

Using donor sperm to become a parent leaves you with more questions that you must make a decision about. For example you must think about how you will tell your child that they came about via a donor? What do you tell your family, friends and acquaintances? What will you say to the teachers in school or the nursery school? 

Five important questions about having a donor-conceived child

Would you like an open, anonymous plus or an anonymous donor?

It is entirely up to you. No decision is better than another one. 

Our advice is that in the majority of cases whatever feels right for you and your partner will be best for your child. The important thing therefore is to consider the options available to you and decide on that basis.

When we ask single women and lesbian couples about their decision, we can see that most of them choose open donors, particularly in Denmark, where there is a lot of openness about different types of families. It is also to do with the fact that women do not want to restrict the child. Some single women might say: “As I can’t give my child a father, at least I can use an open donor.” We’re also finding that more heterosexual couples are choosing open donors than before due to an increased openness generally in society. Others choose an anonymous plus or an anonymous donor, because they want to take responsibility for the child (choose on the child’s behalf) and thus not just pass on/hand over a possible decision to the child regarding finding out more later in life. 

What will you decide yourself, and what will you leave up to the clinic?

One important thing you should consider is: What will you decide yourself? For some people it is really important to be involved in every decision. Some people want a donor with blond hair and blue eyes. Other people are more concerned about having a donor that shares their values, outlook on life and interests. While some people don’t want to have any influence on this decision. 

However, most people have one or more things on their wish list, and there is certainly nothing wrong with that. It is important to emphasize though that we cannot give any guarantees. Even if the donor has blue eyes, the clinic will never be able to guarantee that the child will also have blue eyes, etc. 

If the only thing you want is a child with blond hair and blue eyes, then the clinic can select a donor with these features for you. If we are selecting a donor for you, we will not have any more information that you. We do not know the donor; it is the only the sperm banks who deal with donors.

What will you do if it transpires that the donor has a hereditary disorder?

We all have genetic abnormalities. This also applies to a donor. Even though the donor will have been screened and tested for several different disorders, naturally we cannot give any guarantees. But generally, the child is better off than most naturally-conceived children, because the donor is screened and tested. In many cases, the donor will typically have previously donated sperm for other children, and we would be informed if, for example, he was in quarantine while investigations were taking place to see if the reported malformation or disorder in a child could be attributed to the donor. 

Are you keen to have more than one child?

We’re often asked: “How much donor sperm should I buy?” It is really difficult to advise you about as we can’t know this. However, an important question to consider early in the process is the possibility of having full siblings: “If everything goes well, will you have more than one child? If so, is it important for you to have the same donor?” This, naturally, will have a bearing on the amount you should buy/reserve at the present time, and applies to open, anonymous plus and anonymous donors. 

When will you tell your child that they were conceived via a donor? 

What have you actually thought about saying to the child? When will you tell your child? How will you tell your child? When choosing to have a donor-conceived child, we recommend that you think about the child’s story right from the start.

We find that some people take things as they come, other plan what they’re going to say while others like to write a diary from when they first start to consider the process up until they’re holding a baby in their arms. The diary can later become a gift for the child. 

And don’t forget … a donor-conceived child is a much longed-for child. They were longed-for way before they were conceived. It’s an option. Their mother has wanted them, as has their co-mother or father. And they were wanted by the donor. It’s a big gift, including being told this later in life!

Who does the sperm donation come from?

The sperm donations usually come from a sperm bank, in which they are usually stored frozen (cryopreservation).

The sperm donors are very carefully selected by the sperm banks beforehand. For example, they must be

• between 18 and 38 years old,

• completely healthy both physically and mentally – so they must not have any infectious diseases or hereditary illnesses in the family – and

• have an optimal sperm quality as well as a high sperm count.

The sperm donors receive compensation for their donations.

 

What are the options for sperm donation?

If you are having fertility treatment using donor sperm, there are several options available to you: 

You can let us choose a donor for you based on your wishes regarding eye colour, hair colour and height. We will do our utmost to accommodate your wishes, but we cannot guarantee anything.

You can purchase donor sperm through our clinic based on your wishes regarding eye colour, hair colour and height. You will be guaranteed your wishes, and the sperm will be ready when you come for insemination. You can purchase donor sperm yourself and choose from different characteristics. The following are links to the sperm banks we work with: 

www.europeanspermbank.com

www.cryosinternational.com

www.sellmerdiers.com

Network for single mothers and donor children

When you become a single parent via VivaNeo, you also get the opportunity to be part of a network for single mothers who have made the same decision as you. Every year since 2006, we have celebrated the children 2006 at the annual Stork Event in Copenhagen. The Stork Event has attracted large numbers of donor-conceived children and their mothers. This is a very special community, and it’s special for the children to see that they are not the only children of single parents. There are many different types of families. As a single parent you will get the opportunity to meet others who are in exactly the same situation as you, and we often find that new friendships arise because of what you have in common, i.e. that you have chosen to become a single parent.  

Every year in December we would like to wish all donor-conceived children and their mothers a Happy Christmas at the clinic. This is also an opportunity to enjoy a cosy Christmas atmosphere and for children and their parents to network. The Christmas Event at the clinic is a unique opportunity to show your child where they started life. We know that this means a lot to many of our single mothers and their children.

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☎ +45 98 14 45 55
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